- My own beauty and the beauty standards
- Goal weight = Happiness?
- Your strength can be your weakness and weakness can be your strength
- When you put your energy into something that you care about, anything is possible
My own beauty and the beauty standards
When Tomomi was 13 years old, she started feeling that she was ugly and fat because she did not look like people on TV, magazines, and advertisements everywhere. She felt that all the messages coming from them were, “This is beautiful. If you don’t fit in, you are not.” She tried to fit in those standards and did things to fit in even if it would hurt herself.
What is a beauty? Should we have beauty standards? What if we had all kinds of beauty presented everywhere, would she still have the same struggle?
When she became a trainer, she started training her body more and had values on her looks. But she started realizing if she couldn’t work out due to an injury or something, Could she still have the same value about herself that she was feeling?? Her answer was no.
- Looks aren’t the only thing beautiful
- Being who you are is already enough and beautiful
- No need to fit in any beauty standards
Goal weight = Happiness?
Tomomi wanted to be 103 lb so bad during her twenties because she believed that she would have had the confidence that she needed to feel beautiful about herself.
Even she got to her goal weight, she did not feel beautiful enough. She didn’t know her own value and didn’t have the confidence that she thought she would have.
- Our weight does not define our beauty or value
- We all have the perfect bodyweight that matches our own body.
- Is the goal weight healthy for you?
Your strength can be your weakness and weakness can be your strength
When Tomomi was running the gym with her partner at the previous location, she was under so much pressure and stress. Their rent was about $5000 a month and the expenses were from $6000 to $7000 a month, plus paying back to their investor. She was very insecure about her accent and felt uncomfortable to talk to people who were outside of her field. Her partner told her, “Remember, you speak two languages. Most Americans only speak one.”
Tomomi is very responsible, always wants to do the right thing and does her best for everything. From outside or, most of the employers would love that kind of quality, but to her, it was pushing her to the edge. She had to learn to take it easy and be lazy sometimes.
- If you look at your own weakness in a different way, it could be the strength
- Your strength can be what gives you pressure and stress
- We can manage our stress by thinking differently
When you put your energy into something that you care about, anything is possible
Tomomi’s brother was a smart kid when they were little. Tomomi accepted that and didn’t try to compete with him at all. She didn’t think less of herself because of that, but she knew that she didn’t like to study much, she hates math. Her brother wanted to go to the smartest high school in Iwakuni, so he studied hard and he got in. When it was Tomomi’s turn, she picked a high school which had one of the strongest track and field team because she wanted to keep running. So she didn’t study hard like her brother. When she went to the orientation at the high school that she wanted to go, she learned that she was in the smartest classroom in the grade. All of her classmates took an exam to the smartest high school in Iwakuni and unfortunately they didn’t make it. She also learned that if she didn’t do good with her grades, she would have dropped to the next lower level classroom and would continue to drop each level if she didn’t pass her tests. She came home and she told her parents that she was going to stay in the classroom. She studied very hard especially in math and she stayed for the entire school time and continued to stay on the track and field team.
Tomomi learned that she could be smart like her brother.
- It is possible to be better at something that you thought you were not good at
- Doing your best always creates a great feeling
- It could be the mind that is stopping the possibility